Hi Jem, as a parent, alls I can say is that we are human too and most of us our doing our best. There is no instruction manual on how to ‘do life or be a perfect parent.’ 💗

I’ve often wondered that of my mom and dad. The way I see it, it’s not easy to change behaviors and thoughts you’ve been repeating for years. Some people want to change and work hard and achieve some changes, for others, it’s too hard or they just don’t want to change & it doesn’t mean that they don’t love us. Yes they are our parents but they’re also people who are scared and confused and lonely and all the other traits of being human. Whenever I want others to change, I remind myself of where I would like to change in my own life and ask myself honestly, how that’s going for me! 😀 I spent years wishing my mom could be more emotionally stable, that she would seek help, that she could treat me the way I needed to be treated and that left me miserable. Now I accept who she is. She’s not the mom I need but she’s the one I’ve got and as a result, we try to have the best relationship that we can under the circumstances.